Brian Family Article


BY: Brian Steadman

Or I should say the word “family” is funny. It’s funny because it means so many things to so many people. If you Google the word “family” the definition that comes up is “a group of one or more parents and their children living together as a unit”. There is an old saying “You can’t choose your family”. By the Google definition, I guess this is true but to me, it means SOOOOOOO much more. I believe that a true family is not determined by blood. To me, a family is ANY group of people who care about you, support you, look out for you, and are there for you through the good times and the bad. Especially the bad. Family allows you to be who you are without judgment or strings attached. If you look at any successful business, team, or organization they all credit their success to being family.

I have had many families.

Blood Family

My blood family was very dysfunctional. We are very distant from each other, physically and emotionally. It is not that we don’t love each other, it is just that we are really not part of each other’s lives.

Drug Family

When I was younger my first family outside my own were my Drug Families. One made up of dealers and one made up of users. The Dealer Family was all about loyalty and left no room for error. My Dealer Family was all about business and looked at fun as a weakness. The User family was all about partying and getting crazy, there was NO loyalty or trust. I hate to admit this but the User Family was much more fun.

New York Family

When I moved to New York, I found my New York Family. This family is what I believe a true family is. We have all grown and moved on to different states/countries, our own careers, and our own lives. But we can go years without seeing or talking to each other but when we do it’s like we talked just yesterday.

Work Family

I have had numerous work families. When I say work families, I mean that we met at work but our relationships go outside of work. We celebrate each other’s achievements, accomplishments, and milestones. We were also there to console, comfort, and support them during the bad times. These types of families are rare and are very hard to keep together, and they hurt when they break up. By far my favorite work family was my Showboat Family. Anyone who was or is a part of that family will agree.

Princeton Family

Now my Princeton Family is the rarest of all families. It is the very definition of ride or die, crew. Nothing is off-limits and they are always there. The children of the members of this family are all considered nieces and nephews by everyone and are cared for as if they were their own. The funniest part about this group is that I met them through my ex-wife, who grew up and went to school with most of them. They got me in the divorce and they treat me like we have known each other forever. They are everything that ANYONE would describe as a good family.

Comedy Family

Now my newest family is simply amazing. I have never experienced anything like my Comedy Family. My Comedy Family has changed me more than any group in my life. They not only care about me personally, but they have changed the way I look at life. They have accepted me for who I am unlike any other group of people I have ever met. They not only accept all of my craziness but they embrace it and encourage it. They have allowed me to change the way I look at the world. I can now laugh at myself, my life, and the world I live in. Their acceptance, guidance, and friendship have allowed me to look at life through new eyes and simply enjoy life like I did when I was a kid. They are always there to set me straight when I start to take life too seriously. They not only provided me with a new career but a new outlook on life. They showed me the power of laughter in every aspect of my life. They have given me strength, power, and control over my own life like never before.

Now, most of these families came later in my life, but that in no way lessens the impact they have had on me. It has allowed me to truly understand that You CAN choose your family. Blood does not determine family, LOVE does. So if you have made it this far into this thread, please come and join our family by coming to a show, or any comedy show for that matter. It is true “Laughter is the best medicine” and “FAMILIES that laugh together stay together”. So please come and join us for the greatest medication in the world. Love you all and hope to see you all soon.

Brian Steadman is an up and coming comic who performs all over Atlantic City. He has also performed at New York’s Grisly Pear, Greenwich Village Comedy Club and The Misfit Hive. Brian came to comedy late in life, but he feels like he has been doing it forever. Brian Steadman recently quit his job, after ten years, at one of the Atlantic City’s casinos to perform comedy full-time. He brings his life experiences as a bouncer, street pharmacist, retail manager, casino supervisor and jewelry designer to the stage in a very unique and funny way.